I hope this talk from John 11 about Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead will help. It suggests that God is not distant, uninterested and impotent in the face of pain. Jesus is moved by the death of his friend and responds with pathos and power.
How do you respond to all of this? Jesus says in John 11:25 “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies.” Do you believe?